Let’s get one thing absolutely straight.
Your purpose was given to you by God Himself.
Those amazing skills and talents that you possess are for the sake of serving God and people, i.e. your purpose.
Please fear not when I say serving God and people. This doesn’t mean that the country should be full of Mother Theresas’ and Ghandis’. Although that really could be a pleasant blessing.
That fact that God wants you to use your talents to serve Him and people doesn’t mean that you are to do it free of charge.
What I’m talking about is using your gifts and activating your vision to provide a service of real value. People will always pay for a value added service or product.
I asked a group of delegates at a Communication Skills and Sales course I was facilitating many months ago, what they wanted to be in the future.
I was horrified by their answers.
90% of them said they wanted to be wealthy.
That was all.
No desire for some sort of fulfilment.
Just loads of money!!
I asked them why.
The general answer was that it would make them happy.
Again, I asked them why loadsa money would make them happy.
Answer – because it would enable them to buy the best cars and build the biggest and best houses.
The fact that they want to buy the best cars and build the biggest houses is not my concern.
What concerns me is that they genuinely believe money leads to joy and fulfillment.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that money is bad.
I could certainly do with a lot more of it!! Lol
My point is that having loadsa money is zero guarantee of fulfillment and happiness.
Many of the wealthiest people this planet has ever seen, didn’t set out to become stinkingly wealthy. Their number one aim in life was to add value to mankind.
Ford’s vision was to design and develop a car that every man on the street could buy, thereby Adding Value and Impacting Lives.
The money naturally followed.
Bill Gates’ vision was to have a computer in every home. He sensed the direction in which the world was moving, and recognised that a computer at home would not so much be a luxury but a necessity, thereby Adding Value and Impacting Lives.
The money naturally followed.
Vision is key.
If you haven’t done this yet, then let me help you.
Get a pen and paper and write down your talents, gifts, and strengths.
Then call those closest to you and ask them what your greatest gifts are. This will most likely confirm what you’ve written down, or in some instances open your eyes to some wonderful things you never realised about yourself.
Next, think of the best and most effective manner in which you can use your skills to add value to people’s lives.
Then write it on the piece of paper.
Once you’ve done this I want you to sit back, relax, and picture yourself using those gifts / skills to serve people, to serve society, to transform society.
Be very very very very detailed.
You now have your vision.
We all have a beginning and an end, on this planet that is.
You start on one line (your beginning) and hopefully end on another line (fulfillment of your destiny).
What do you think lies in the middle, between the two lines?
Yep! Stress, mishaps, challenges, problems, and all manner of turbulence.
It’s your vision of who you are and where you’re going that will enable you to keep going, no matter what.
You must persevere.
The greats of today didn’t just arrive at greatness by hopping on the 182 bus from Battersea to Chelsea. And if they did, I’m pretty sure that the bus had some tyre and engine problems along the way.
In other words, yes, God has given you a vision and a purpose. But that doesn’t mean it will be plain sailing. There will be many challenges along the way, both at the work place and at home.
During the tough periods, some of those closest to you may even tell you to give up and do something else.
A few days ago, whilst watching the champions league final at a friend’s house, I told him I was really worried that the book agent might not like my book (yep, I recently finished my first book. How exciting!!!!).
“Segs, if the agent doesn’t like it then you continue looking for one that does. You don’t just give up after your first few attempts.
The first record producer that the Beatles took their first album to told them that the world wouldn’t like their music.
Can you imagine Segs???!!! He told them that the world wasn’t ready for their type of music.
That guy must have been kicking himself every day for the past four decades!!!!”
My friend is spot on.
Those four lads from Liverpool didn’t give up. They persevered, and eventually found someone that believed in them.
In those desperate moments of anxiety and despair, keep focusing on your vision, keep going, and never give up.
THE RIGHT PARTNER
Can you remember the article I wrote a few months ago titled, ‘What Women Want”?
One very important point I made in that article, is that it is important to ensure that your partner is fully aware of your vision, your purpose, and your determination to fulfill it.
As I’m sure you’ll agree, this is not the type of conversation you have a few days before, or after your wedding. It is a conversation you should have in the early days of your courtship.
Yes, yes, yes, some of you may be thinking ‘the early days??? What’s he talking about? How can one have such a conversation so soon after meeting someone?’
Don’t worry, I’m not saying on day two or three. But you should definitely give a few hints about where you’re going during the first couple of months.
Because you both need to know whether you’re right for each other; whether you believe in each other’s purpose; whether or not you can withstand the challenges that may pop up along the way; and whether or not you even want to be around to face such challenges.
It will become very clear whether or not you’re right for each other. And if you’re not, then be objective and move on. What’s the point of hanging around?
Time waits for no man, or woman for that matter. Lol
On a lighter note, what is it with these flipping mind games?????
They’re such a waste of time!!
If you ask most men in their late 30s and early 40s (sorry, I can only speak for this particular age group on this one) what they want most, the majority will say ‘peace of mind’.
In what way can the mind games that people play when dating give anybody ‘peace of mind’????
Ladies, if you believe in the direction your man is going and want to help him to get there, then go easy on the mind games. So that his mind can be at peace, in order for him to channel his mental energy into achieving his purpose.
Life is complicated enough.
Let’s try as best we can to leave the mind games out of it.
I really could harp on and on about this particular point. But maybe I’m just getting old. Let’s leave it at that, shall we?!?!
That’s all for today.