Monthly Archives: June 2013

What Really Matters

Whilst consoling me after my mother passed on to heaven a few years ago, a good friend mine said to me;

“So sorry about your loss Segs. Unfortunately as we get older more and more people who are close to us are going to start dying.”

My reply

“Cheers mate. That’s really inspiring!”

My dear friend obviously meant well but he’s always been one to tell you exactly the way it is.

Can’t argue with him.

He spoke the truth.

The older we get the more the likelyhood of losing people close to us.

But our loss is God’s gain. For surely those who died in Christ are now with the Almighty.

My family recently lost someone very very special.

A pillar of strength

A tower of love

A man who personified selflessness

A Truly Great Man

I am forever grateful to God for you Dad.

Thank you

We always knew he was special. But we had no idea how special until after he was gone.

The one common denominator that resonates through the avalanche of tributes that have flooded in since his departure is that of ‘selflessness’.

He was a man who was always willing to sacrifice anything and all for those around him.

For anyone that needed help, he was a very special ‘friend in deed’.

Whilst listening to tributes from the numerous people that this colossus of love helped was both moving and inspiring, one couldn’t help feeling a sense of….well….a sense of ‘surely this is what it’s all about. Surely this is what is really important – impacting the lives of others.’

As Christians we spend a great amount of time professing our belief in Christ’s resurection, and thereby our inheritence of eternal joy and bliss as God’s children.

However we still struggle to deal with the concept of death. We continue to shy away from the fact that our time on earth is but a tiny milisecond when compared to the eternity we will spend in our real home – Heaven.

Maybe our churches should focus a lot more on what Christ did for us, leading to the certainty and reality of heaven for those who believe in Him.

And maybe it would help if we stop using the word ‘death’.

After-all Christ himself says;

“Whoever believes in me, as the scripture has said, streams of living water will flow from within him.”

John 7 vs 38

“I tell you the truth, if anyone keeps my word, he will never see death.”

John 8 vs 5

For those that believe and have given their lives to Christ there is NO DEATH.

The more we subconsciously believe (and it really is so subtle that we don’t realise) that earth is our final destination the more likely it is that we will continue to focus on those things that in the end don’t really matter.

So what’s my message today?


– God gave you eyes
Use them to acknowledge the reality of those in need

– God gave you ears
Listen to the cries of those that need your help

– God gave you special talents
Use them to serve those around you

– God gave you a mouth to speak
Use it to tell as many people as possible about what Christ did for us

– God gave you a heart
Let go of how you feel and what the world says, and allow His love to flow freely within you, thereby enabling you to love as He designed you to love – unconditionally and selflessly.

Through Christ Jesus, you ARE, and always will be a LIVING child of the LIVING God.

Segun Akande


More Necessities For Your Purpose Journey

Right, I want you to stop whatever it is you’re doing right now.


Sit back.

Now I want you to picture your ideal home.

Pay attention to every detail – the way it looks from the outside; the surrounding environment; inside your house – the look and feel of all the rooms; the colours; the furniture.

Be very very detailed.

Close your eyes and walk around your house for three minutes then open them again and continue reading.

A few weeks ago I asked some course delegates to do this particular exercise.
Then I asked them to outline how they would get to the point where they would be able to afford to purchase or build their ideal home.

One of the delegates asked me the following question;

“What if it has nothing to do with size or material beauty?”

“It’s whatever your ideal is”, I replied.

“Cool, because my ideal home is not big or special to look at. But it’s full of joy and love. There’s only one step I need to take, and that’s to stop working and become a full time house wife so that I can take care of my family.”

I must confess that I was shocked by this response, not because of its substance, but because of its honesty and simplicity.

She recognises that her purpose / mission in life is to raise a great family and she has embraced it, without fear of what society or anybody else might think or say.

The fact is, raising a great family will most likely do wonders for the environment she lives in.

Not everyone is destined to be the next Aliko Dangote or Nelson Mandela.

Indeed not everyone wants to be the next Aliko Dangote or Nelson Mandela.

We are all different and each one of us has his or her own particular purpose.

Nobody’s purpose is more important than another’s.

As the great anthropologist Margaret Mead put it, “Never doubt that a small group of committed people can change the world, indeed it’s the only thing that ever has.”

Changing the world starts with changing our own community. That happens person by person, business by business, family by family.

1. Your Role In Creating Your Ideal Environment

The first of today’s ‘necessities’ is having a vision of the kind of environment you want to raise your children in, and your role in making it happen.

When I say environment I’m not only talking about your house or compound, but also your community, town, city, country, society.

2. Recognise and Understand Your Values

If there’s one thing I always find infuriating, it is when people don’t have the basic courtesy to reply text messages.

Many months ago a friend of mine introduced me to a very pretty young lady (yep – he’s desperately trying to get me out of the singles market as soon as possible).

I telephoned the pretty dame in the evening and we had a reasonably interesting chat. After speaking with her, I sent her a text message saying “Nice chatting with you. Have a good night.”

She didn’t reply.

I was a little irritated but decided to give her the benefit of the doubt – in case she didn’t have credit on her phone or something.

The whole of the next day – still no reply.

That was it. As far as I was concerned she could be the most adorable girl in the world and I would still run a mile from her.

A few days later, my friend asked me how it went.

I was a little shy in my response, conscious of the fact that I might seem a little over the top in my reaction.

“Well, it was ok. But…..em…she did something that I’m a little uncomfortable with; something that, though I’m trying to, I simply can’t tolerate.”

“Really? What’s that?” enquired my friend.

“Well…I sent her a text saying nice chatting with you and have a good night, but she never replied. Sorry, but that’s just rude. It’s a matter of basic courtesy. Not sure I want to be with such a person.”

Much to my surprise, my friend replied, “I know exactly what you mean. I can’t stand people that lack manners or basic courtesy. I used to think I was weird or too strict or something, but then I realised that courtesy is simply something that is very important to me.”

In other words courtesy is a very important VALUE to him, as it obviously also is with me.

Very often, when something happens that makes you uncomfortable, upset, or incongruent in any way, an important value is screaming out at you – in this case courtesy and respect.

I have no doubt that the lady in question is a lovely person. Indeed, bearing in mind Nigeria’s more than erratic mobile phone networks, it’s all too likely that she didn’t even receive the text message.

The second of today’s three ‘necessities’ is recognising and understanding your most important values.

Your Values are powerfully intertwined with your purpose.

3. Belief

The third ‘necessity’ today is Belief.

Believe in yourself and most importantly, believe that God is more than capable of making it happen.

I’ve tried to avoid using this example as I don’t want to come across as been a bible basher – not today anyway.

But there’s simply no better example than that of the young David.

Going face to face with Goliath was not only an unenviable task but surely dumber than dumb!!

However, David recognised that the power lay not in the sword, the shield, or even in Goliath’s forearms, but in the Almighty God.

He believed that God would do it and he believed that God would use him to do it.

Remember – your purpose was given to you by God.

He has already given you everything you need  to achieve it.