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Life Beyond Mere Existence

Each and every single one of us is completely different from the next person.

Different DNAs

Different Characters

Different Strengths

Different talents

And Different Purposes

Nobody’s purpose is more important than another’s.

Identifying and walking in your purpose can often be the difference between living a fulfilled life, and merely existing.

Society tells us that we should go to school, then university, get a good job, get married, and have kids. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Indeed for some, their purpose is to raise great families, thereby adding value to our environment.

Where does your purpose lie?

Are you aware of why you’re here?

Would you like to find out?

-Identify Your Purpose

-Define Your Personal Vision

-Define Your Personal Missions

-Harness The Importance Of Values And Roles

-Set Mission Oriented Goals

The surest way to ensure a fulfilled life in which you are constantly achieving set goals with ease is for those goals to be ‘mission oriented goals’ founded on a purpose and a vision.

Saturday 3rd August

1. A Study of Some of The World’s Greatest Achievers

2. Approaches to Setting and Achieving Goals

3. Self Discovery – Who Are You?

4. Identifying Your Purpose

Saturday 10th August

1. Identifying Your Vision and Mission

2. What is Success?

3. What is Wealth?

4. Identifying Your Values

5. Roles and Values

Saturday 17th August

1. Applying Purpose, Mission, and Goals To Your Current Situation

2. Setting and Achieving Goals

Venue :
B Center, Micheal’s Building, 1411 Adetokunbo Ademola street, Victoria Island,
Lagos

Cost : Free

Coach : SEGUN AKANDE

Testimonials

‘helped me to realise how I see myself and how I can use my skills to make a change’

‘clear, easy to understand and very objective’

‘the practical exercises made delivery and understanding easy’

‘this course is serious, fun, and keeps you constantly interested’

‘this course enabled me to connect my values to my vision’

Please call 014637417 / 07052156101 / 07036695005 or email
segun@olusegunakande.com
toyin@olusegunakande.com or kemi@olusegunakande.com to make your booking

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What Women Want

Thanks so much to those of you that answered the questions posed to you a few days ago.

Men

What do you want most from life?

What do you want from a woman – character wise?

Women

What do you want most from life?

What do you want from a man – character wise?

Before going any further I want to say something to you women.

“You Are Absolutely Fantastic!!!!”

Especially those on my bb. Your swift and detailed responses were superb!!

Just one question ladies

“Why did the majority of you start your answers with lol???”

Below are the results of my mini survey.

What women want most in life 

Happiness – 70%

Success in Business – 50%

Fulfilling purpose – 50%

What women want from men

Fear of God – 90%

Honesty – 80%

Drive and determination – 70%

Men

What Men want most from life

Peace – 80%

Happy Family – 30%

Fulfilling purpose – 30%

What men want most from women

Friendship – 70%

Make them a better person – 60%

Honesty – 60%

Let’s start with our adorable women.

Yep – I love you ladies. You’re all troopers!!

Happiness

I often wonder where true happiness comes from – on what or whom it depends on.

About a year and a half ago I asked myself the following question.

“Segs, what makes you happy?”

The answer was actually fairly simple – tennis, children, God, work, watching films – either cinema or dvds (I just love my series’!!!!), adventure holidays, family and friends – not necessarily in that order.

Though fairly straight forward I was surprised by how the simple things in life seem to be what make me happy. It revealed to me that many of the things that I was doing, or attempting to do in order to find excitement or happiness were a pointless exercise.

And there’s the rub.

Many of us spend so much time doing what everyone else is doing because we think that is what will make us happy. But in reality what will make you happy is most likely very different to what makes others happy. In other words we are all intrisically different – in  character and in DNA.

So stop doing things, or attempting to do things just because others are doing them.

If the world says that what makes you happy is boring then so be it!

Tell the world to take a hike. 

And don’t make the mistake of depending on other people to make you happy. That is both a futile and unfair burden on those around you.

It is interesting that most of us say ‘happiness’ and ‘purpose’ in the same breath.

The two are linked.

Once you know your purpose in life and start to walk in it, you will ultimately feel a lot happier about life – even in challenging times.
Nope. This is not an article about purpose so that’s enough on that point.

Just remember – happiness is very strongly linked to walking in your purpose.

Let’s proceed

“Let love and faithfulness never leave you, bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart”

Proverbs 3 vs 3

“Now I want you to realise that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.”

1st Corinthians 11 vs 3

A man’s biggest responsibility in life is to his God; to love and serve His God with all his heart, stength, and mind.

In other words to love Him faithfully – no matter what.

The man’s greatest mission in life is to fulfill the purpose that God set out for him.

Please note – God is perfect in love and therefore understands that women need to be loved.

Indeed He expects nothing less from the man – to love his partner.

“Husbands, love your wives”

The woman’s greatest mission is to be her husband’s helper.

“The Lord God said, “it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Genesis

Note ladies – a helper ‘suitable’ for him – to help him fulfill his God given purpose.

Note chaps – “suitable for him”.

So when chosing a partner, ask yourself this question.

“Will this beautiful lady help me fulfill God’s purpose for me?”

If the answer is no then gird your loins (literally), take a bow, make your apologies, and leg it!

And ladies, when deciding whether or not to date a guy, ask him what he believes his purpose is.

Yep – ASK HIM NOW.

Who cares whether or not it’s too soon. You don’t have time to waste. Better to find out nice and early so that you both don’t waste each other’s time.

If he doesn’t know where he’s going then scarper.

If he does know where he’s going, but you’re not even vaguely interested in going there then scarper.

If he knows where he’s going and you believe in his mission and want to help him get there then he’s your guy.

What’s that saying?! You can tell a man / woman by his or her friends??

Hence the reason friendship comes up high on the list!!!!

Genesis 2 vs 18

Now this is where the challenge begins.

We live in an age in which women want to be equal to men – equal in power, equal in money, equal in influence, and equal in authority.

As much as I love the thought of this, it simply cannot work.

Please DO NOT misunderstand me.

I am not saying that women should be muppets for men to tread all over. I’m also not saying that women shouldn’t work or aspire to do great things.

Certainly not!!!

Remember – “husbands, love your wives” – listen to, take care of, respect their opinions and protect etc.

But so long as women embrace this new found liberation and equality which the world, aptly aided by the media, is feeding them, then relationships will continue to be fundamentally challenged.

Why?

Because most men want peace – peace of mind.

Peace of mind to follow their purpose – no matter what, and to be rest assured that their partner will support and help them – no matter what.

For a man to flourish – to fully focus and succeed in obeying and serving – oops!! – let me put this another way – –  for the man to fully succeed in this “fear of God” desire that ladies so desparately crave, he must be allowed to walk in His purpose – to obey and serve his God.

Ladies – you cannot desire or expect the man to ‘fear his God’ and at the same time challenge every decision he makes! If you do so, and he changes or dilutes his course then who is he actually fearing – God or you??

Remember ladies – you also want a man who is driven.

Am I making sense??

I really hope so.

I’m trying I’m trying!!!

Finally, men please take note – ladies want a man who ‘fears God’ and who is ‘driven’.
 
In other words a man who is determined to succeed in fulfilling his purpose.

The moment you start to dilute your course is the moment your partner starts to feel insecure and unsure.

So as my dear friend Dejoooo quite correctly stated, consistency is absolutely key.

Another dear friend of mine succinctly put it this way,

“We are gradually doing away with old fashioned values.”

I couldn’t agree more.

These old fashioned values that we are doing away with are the necessary ingredients to peace, unity and happiness in relationships.

The interesting thing is that we all know what we want; and deep down – beneath all the garbage that the world’s media has fed us, lies a deep and sincere desire for those very things that God placed in our hearts when He first created us.

This article really didn’t pan out the way it was supposed to.

It was supposed to be a funny article.

When I woke up at 2.30am (yep – finally realised that there’s a reason why I wake up in the middle of the night. Lol) and started writing what I thought would be a fun filled message I was shockingly led in a completely different direction.

I guess God had other ideas all along. Lol

It’s 5am in the morning.

I pray I’ve made sense.

Hopefully I can sleep now.

Tata.

©Segun Akande

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Still On His Shoulders

Can you remember the article titled ‘Now Picture This’?

I didn’t ask whether or not you liked it.

I asked whether or not you can remember it.

There was an interesting mix of reactions to that article.

Some people loved it.

Others thought that I may have been smoking some herbs or something!

Why did I write it?

I’ve always wondered what the mood in heaven was like during Jesus’ torture and crucifixion; and what transpired when Jesus returned triumphantly to Heaven.

I want you to try something.

Remember Handel? That’s right – he of Handel’s Messiah.

I want you to listen to the Amen finale whilst reading the second half of the article – when the gates opened for Christ to enter.

Don’t be shy.

Give it a try

It’s good to allow your imagination to free flow every now and then – in a positive way of-course.

Although it’s nigh impossible to fully grasp the magnificense and majesty of it all, it’s good to imagine what heaven is like – the beauty – the splendour – the glory; reminding us that despite the trials and tribulations of this life, there is a place we can look forward to going to – where there will be everlasting peace and everlasting joy.

No no no – this is not an excuse to give up on life on earth. You still have a lot do here – for God and for those around you.

Remember – you are here for a reason; to serve and bless the King of kings.

Imagining heaven every now and then serves as an effective reminder of the absurdly high price that Christ paid for us; a constant reminder of what is really important – love and service to God and each other.

So what is dear Segs saying this time????

Very simple

Stop living life as though earth is where it all ends.

Do your best to love and serve God.

Do your best to love and serve those around you.

Do all you can to bless those in need.

No matter what you’re going through there’s someone in a much worse situation.

Let go of the self pity

Let go of the anger

Let go of the anxiety

Let go of fear

Remember – God says ‘blessed is the man / woman whose iniquities are forgiven’.

Through Jesus all your sins are forgiven.

You don’t have to earn it.

It’s a free gift.

It’s not about which church you attend.

There’s no ‘them’ and ‘us’ in Christianity.

Which church you attend, whether Pentecostal, Baptist, or Anglican is irrelevant.

So stop comparing

Stop competing
We are all one family – united in Christ Jesus.

The only factor that is relevant is Jesus.

His two greatest commands are to love God with all your heart, strength, and mind; and to love your neighbour likewise.

Finally, I want to tell you how God cheered me up last week.

I was invited to say a few words at graduation ceremony last Saturday.

My message was on Vision and the importance of Adding Value.

After speaking, I felt rather unsatisfied with my performance. The students and guests really enjoyed my message. But as far as I was concerned I didn’t speak well at all (I’m a wee bit of a perfectionist).

As I’m sure you can imagine I ignored all the good points and focused only on the things I didn’t do well – the points I missed out.

Slowly but surely my mood descended into one of irritation and disappointment; getting more and more upset by the second.

Add to that the weekly Saturday afternoon torture of watching Arsenal disintegrate further and further into something more resembling of an under 9s’ girls team (sorry ladies) than a premier league side and I’m sure you can well imagine how I was feeling on Saturday evening!

Yes, Arsenal won 2 nil but the manner of the victory was so poor. And who knows what they’ll do on Monday night!!

Anyway, I digress.

Fortunately for me a good friend of mine called me on Saturday evening.

Being an astute observer of people’s moods he was quick to ask me what was wrong.

After explaining myself ( I left out the Arsenal bit) he told me some very important facts of life.

1. It’s not every day that we’ll get things spot on.

2. It’s the mistakes and failures that enable us to succeed

3. As sure as night will turn to day God will not give up on us – so we must not give up on Him or on ourselves

The next morning (Sunday morning) I woke up feeling a whole lot better.

A new day

Another chance to be the best I can be

On my way to church I remembered (actually the Holy Spirit reminded me but I don’t want to sound all spooky) that The Experience had been held on Friday.

I remembered that the House on The Rock usually has a service at Eko Hotel’s Expo Hall on the Sunday immediately after The Experience – giving us another chance to worship with Don Moen. There were off-course other excellent international and domestic artists but I’m a huge Don Moen fan so that’s all that mattered to me.

So I decided to go to House on The Rock’s Sunday service at Eko Hotel’s Expo Hall.

After parking the car, I decided to walk through Eko Hotel’s reception area rather than take the more direct route from the car park.

On my way to the Expo Hall I bumped into an old friend.

Whilst chatting in the reception area something wonderful happened.

Can you guess????

Don Moen walked out of one of the lifts.

Like a star struck teenager I said to my friend ‘that’s Don Moen. He’s my favourite Christian musician. I have to say hi. I just have to.’

‘Cool. Go for it,’ she replied.

“Naa, let me not bother him,” I replied.

Fortunately for me my feet decided to ignore my shyness, and before I knew it I had walked over to Don Moen to introduce myself.

“Mr. Moen, so good to see you. I’m attending this church today because of you. You are an inspiration.”

He was so nice. He put his arms around my shoulders and thanked me.

I was absolutely chuffed; totally made my day.

Needless to say the worship service that morning was awesome. Indeed it was during that service that God gave me my previous article – ‘On His Shoulders’.

It later occurred to me that it wasn’t a coincidence that I opted to take a different route from my car to the Expo hall.

It wasn’t a coincidence that I bumped into an old friend in the reception area of Eko Hotel.

It wasn’t a coincidence that Don Moen walked out of the lift whilst I was chatting with my friend.

God simply wanted to cheer me up.

God cares about you.

He’s going to do something to cheer you up today.

Just follow His lead.

Have a fab weekend.+

 

©Segun Akande

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It’s Time

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Is it really that time of year again???

Is it really???

Feels like only a few days ago that I sat down to determine my dos’ and don’t s for 2012!!!

So what happened?

How did twelve months pass by with such lightening speed??? Continue reading

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A Conversation

A Conversation

“Are you alright young man? You seem rather upset.”

“I’m fine.” replied Jake, as he looked up to assess his inquisitor.”

Jake had been sitting on the fence for several minutes.

He had no idea where he was or how he got there.

He’d had an argument with his mother.
He was angry. Angry with his mum. Angry that his older sister wasn’t able to come home for his birthday. Angry that his father had been taken from him. Continue reading

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Picture This

‘ As soon as he finished saying this, the ground under them split apart and the earth opened its mouth and swallowed them, with their households and all Korah’s men and all their possessions. They went down alive into the grave, with everything they owned; the earth closed over them, and they perished and were gone from the community……..
………… And fire came out from the Lord and consumed the 250 men who were offering the incense.’

Numbers 16 vs 31 -35

Not quite the light morning read you were expecting???

Sorry.

But don’t stop reading just yet.

It gets better.

The old testament gives many instances of God’s wrath – against His children; against Israel’s enemies; against all sorts to be honest.

Time and time again we are told of God’s anger towards His people, and of-course the inevitable punishments that followed. Continue reading

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Keeping God Happy

As my brother came out of the room I assessed his demeanour, searching for clues that might reveal the mood of the revered and much loved man in that study.

“How did it go? Is he in a bad mood?” I asked.

“He’s not in the best of moods Segs. And you know your report is even worse than mine! Sorry mate. Good luck.”

Not exactly the reply I had been hoping for.

Although why I thought I might somehow get away scott free with a bad end of term school report is beyond me. Especially one in which my house master stated ” If Segun spent half the time he spends in the girls common room on his studies he would do extremely well.”

What happened?

Let’s just say that as well as receiving one of the fiercest tongue lashings of my life (quote- “did I send you to school in the UK to chase girls?!!!”), the first two weeks of that holiday were not at all pleasant. Continue reading

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An Opportunity

Just a brief one today.

Don’t be so jubilant!!

Besides, you never know, it may turn out to be a long one.

After-all there have been many occasions when I intended to write short articles but ended up writing long ones.

So be warned! But you should be safe – I think – just. Continue reading

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