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Where Is She?

I recently gave you two articles regarding discovering and fulfilling your purpose.

I hope you took some time out to do some personal digging.

If you didn’t, it’s not too late.

Give it a go!!

Hey! I even gave you a warm Christmas message in between!

Gosh I’m a nice guy!

But today …hmmm….sorry ….just a little bit of controversy. Tiny.

Weeny. Honest!!

During a bbm chat with a friend of mine about ‘finding the right partner’ I asked her, “So what type of man are you looking for?”

No I was NOT chatting her up.

Actually now I think of it maybe I was!

“A man who is God fearing, and who I respect,” she replied.

A decent enough answer.

“I can do that” I thought to myself.

Only joking people!!!

I repeat – I did not have a hidden agenda. Although she really is damn fine.

But alas, a friend she is, and a friend she shall remain.

But as I reflected on her answer a few hours later I coudn’t help feeling a little saddened by it.

Why?

What about love?????

For what for many is a Continuous roller-coaster search for the right partner / package,  love not only seems to have flown its nest, but has also purchased a non refundable single ticket to the kalahari desert!!

When did she leave?

No idea.

Rumour has it she created a clone and left decades ago. And now it seems that even her clone has had enough, as she (the clone) was spotted walking out of the travel agents’ a few days ago!

Am I exaggerating???

Hmmm…

An old family friend recently said to me “Young man(I love it when he says that – makes me feel young again – like I’m in my 20s or something!!!), what are you waiting for? Find a good woman; one that is God fearing and respectful. Start a family with her. You don’t need to be in love.”

I must admit that whilst a little shocked by his statement it actually seemed to make a little sense – for a few seconds anyway.

Call me a prehestoric romantic, or whatever you want to call me, but I choose to believe in ‘LOVE’.

Surely even in this day and age it is still possible to meet someone, fall in love, be friends, plan together, and live happily ever after. Surely????!!

Or

Meet someone, be friends, attraction increases, fall in love, plan together, and live
happily ever after. Surely!!!!!!

So – what is Segs talking about today?

Simple

Where has love gone?

Will she be coming back?

And is she (love) a necessary ingredient for a happy relationship / partnership / marriage???

I’ve touched on more than one occasion in my articles about the “package deal”. By this I mean the “doing well, upwardly mobile, great potential, has a nice car, nice watch, fears God, and ambitious – doing well”.

We hear this in most churches accross the nation every Sunday.

Whilst there is nothing wrong with this,  I’m rather concerned that not only is mammon chipping away at the fundamentals of Christianity – love and serve God / love and serve your neighbour; but that old lover of money is now niggling away at the fundamentals of relationships / partnerships / marriages, friendships, unity, LOVE – selfless love.

We live in an age in which selfless love seems all too alien to our natural senses.

I of-course include myself in all this.

We have perfected the art of “loving on condition of”.

Think about it – on condition of;

For you ladies;

– Financial Liquidity

– Has a nice car

– Has a good job and is going places 

– God fearing (whatever that actually means)

For you men

– respectful

– good wife material

– good mother material

– humble

Very rarely do we hear the word “love” mentioned.

There is of-course nothing wrong with any of the conditions listed above.

Indeed every man and woman is entitled to freely make their own choice – and should never be judged.

But when was the last time you heard someone say ” I want to meet someone I’ll love and cherish, and who will love and cherish me”?

Would be quite refreshing wouldn’t it??!!!

Maybe our churches should focus a little more on the importance of love in relationships????!!! And what love actually is??!!!

Heaven knows we ALL need it.

There is however a more recent and more radical view point, which whilst at first sounds utterly ridiculous and more than a tad ‘immoral’, but on reflection actually makes a some sense.

Are you ready for this????

Get out there and have as much fun as you can. If you have a few flings along the way then so be it.

Why?

Because by doing so you stand a better chance of finding a friend – one way or another.

My concern with this view however is that the chances of hurting a few feelings along the way are fairly high.

The alternative of-course is to sit still, behave, and hope for the best. Also a good option.

The one thing that most people seem to agree on is that your partner / wife / husband should be your friend – your companion – warts and all. Lol

Can you remember the parable of the sower? The seeds that fell on good soil but were suffucated by the thornes of the pressures of this world?

This parable relates to love – both in terms of our love for God and our love for each other.

Most of us have a natural inclination to love and be loved.

However is it possible that the pressures of this world, as stated in the parable, have suffucoted our ability to love and be loved???

Pressures??

What pressures???

Oh let’s’see now – he / she must look right, talk right, walk right, sound right – be going places, cook well, is financially liquid, nice car, property, excellent prospects, fear God etc etc.

Why all these conditions?

Because they are fed to us directly and indirectly on a daily basis by friends, family, tv, magazines, gossip, and so much more – leading to an inevitable tendency to compare, compare, and compare some more.

Can you see it now?? – the good seeds of love that were suffocated by the pressures of the world?????

By the way – this ‘fear God’ thing that we all love to say – even demons fear God. But that doesn’t mean that they want to do good.

Surely better to change this to ‘loves God’ – right??!!!

Just a thought.

So – in a nutshell what I’m saying is this;

Love was NOT on that BA flight to the Kalahari desert.

She’s still here.

Keep searching

And if you make a few mistakes along the way, dust yourself up and try again.

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Life Spring

I informed you all many weeks ago about my intention to hold a Divorce seminar in Lagos.

On Saturday, 15th September, the seminar was held at Ocean View.

The seminar was scheduled to begin at 10am.

As I sat in the hall at 10.05am, still waiting for the first guests to arrive, I couldn’t help but wonder whether I had made a huge mistake. Not for the first time I asked myself, “Segs, why on earth are you doing this? Is it really worth it? Are you sure it was God’s voice you heard?”

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Divorce Seminar

During the past few weeks several people have asked me, ‘Why on earth are you doing this divorce seminar?’

To be honest I’d rather NOT be doing it.

I’d rather be happily married and not have to think about it!!

But the reality is that I AM going through a divorce.

So too are numerous couples in Nigeria, and all over the world.

The tortuous and often lonely experience of the past year opened my eyes to the silent suffering of so many others.

So, in a nutshell this seminar is for the purpose of helping people (myself included) to accept their situation, accept God’s love and forgiveness, and endeavour to move on with their lives.

It is far better to help, encourage and support one another to get up and press on with life, than to allow ourselves to wallow alone in defeat, anger, bitterness, resentment and self pity, to name but a few.

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Divorce / Separation

Going through a divorce in Nigeria is a challenging ordeal.

We live in a country that loves to celebrate weddings, which is a good thing.

But when marriages experience serious challenges, or worse still, when divorce or separation become a reality, there are very few people or groups you can go to in order to get some respite, advice, guidance, love – call it what you will.

On Saturday 15th September, an interactive divorce seminar will be held at the Ocean Pearl restaurant.

This seminar is NOT about who is right or wrong. It’s about;

– Recognising and accepting one’s mistakes

– Accepting God’s forgiveness

– Forgiving yourself

– Forgiving you ex

– Who am I?

– What is my purpose?

– How to achieve my goals

– When do I start dating again?

Date : Saturday, 15th September 2012

Time : 10am – 5pm

Venue : Ocean Pearl, Ocean View, Adetokunbo Ademola Street, Victoria Island, Lagos

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Now That Our Eyes Are Open!

After reading the article ‘Have We Got It Wrong???’ my good friend Lanre correctly stated;

‘This is a great article Segs. I can see where you’re going with this. But you didn’t land.’

He’s absolutely right.

I purposely utilised some shock therapy to wake us up a little; to wake us up to the fact that with regards to marriage something has definitely gone wrong somewhere.

Judging from the many responses I received; some of which were a resounding show of agreement and some an open display of irritation, I think most of us are now aware of the fact that maybe, just maybe, we need to re-assess our motives and priorities with regards to marriage.

Quick reminder;

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Have We Got It Wrong 2

There were some interesting reactions to yesterday’s article – ‘Have we got it wrong?’

Some people felt the article was spot on.

Others were irritated by what they thought was a blatant attack on marriage.

Some even felt the article was a little too tame.

The one thing we all agreed on is that something is definitely wrong somewhere.

Why did I point out those dark divorce rate statistics?

I wanted us all to be aware of the grim reality.

Not to scare.

Not to make those of us whose marriages didn’t make it feel better either.

But to encourage us to ask ourselves why.
As well as to goad us into dwelling on how we can play our own part in preventing those horrible rates from increasing.

For those of you who felt that yesterday’s article was an attack on marriage, I want to assure you that it most definitely was not.

Once again, I fully believe in marriage and really hope and pray to get it right one day.

To emphasise this point I want us to have a look at the following excerpt from yesterday’s article.

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” Have we over-complicated matters?

Further still, has the excitement of the church wedding become so fevered that we have become blind to the fact that marriage is so much more than the wedding day???? ”

What I was implying is that we need to go back to the basics.

As I understand it, marriage is about two people coming together as one to build a life / family / future together.

I now believe that in order for a relationship / marriage to flourish there needs to be a great degree of commitment and selflessness from both parties.

Remember – Jesus pointed out that a man’s love for his wife is supposed to mirror His (Christ’s) love for the church.

Christ’s love for the church (you and I) is unconditional and selfless.

This requires regularly swallowing one’s pride and permanently dying to ‘self’.

In other words it is far more than the wedding day.

If there is one thing our generation seems to lack today, it is a commitment to seeing things through, no matter how challenging the circumstances may be.

Let’s take another look at 1st Corinthians 13.

Love is patient
Love is kind
it does not envy
it does not boast
it is not proud
it is not rude
it is not self seeking
it is not easily angered
it keeps no record of wrongs
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth
it always protects
always trusts
always hopes
always perseveres

Just taking one glance at the above makes it pretty obvious to me where I went wrong.

I failed pretty miserably in most, if not all of them.

The above verses are so much more important in the context of marriage and relationships than going to church and saying ‘I do’?

I now believe that in marriage we need to permanently focus on the love that is described in 1st Corinthians 13.

This selfless love that the Apostle Paul describes is supposed to be a personification of Christ’s love for us.

Now – remember – Christ said ‘go and do likewise’.

Marriage is supposed to be the prime example of this selfless and unconditional love.

I certainly had to face some painful realisations about my own lack of commitment and selfishness when I was married.

For those of you who are not Nigerian please accept my apology, as I need to focus on our beloved country for now.

As I pointed out in yesterday’s article, we love our big weddings in Nigeria; to the extent that many jump into marriages in order to enjoy the big wedding day and for the general rush and experience of being able to say ‘I do’.

For some it is because of family pressure; for some it is for financial reasons; for some it is simply for the thrill and apparent magnitude of the wedding day; for some it is just to settle down. For some it is love.

Everyone has their reasons; and none should ever be judged.

But what happens next?

Unfortunately many experience disillusion and disappointment. The end result is more often than not a breakdown of communication, leading to an inevitable split.

Much to the irritation of some people I spoke with yesterday regarding this topic I am still a little hesitant to be as blunt as I probably need to be on this topic.

Why?

Because I know that I made many mistakes and I am still learning from them.

Many couples are friends before they marry. But for some reason, as soon as they utter the words ‘I do’ something changes.

Suddenly the pressure of expectations from each other rears its ugly head.

Whereas before they used to have fun and enjoy each other’s company, suddenly the weight of expectation and the pressures that society seems to heap on each individual strangles the life out of the friendship / relationship.

So what do we need to learn from this?

1. From a personal point of view I believe that we need to fully recognise and understand our expectations before saying ‘I do’.

2. We need to ensure that the fun does not disappear from our relationships.

3. We need to ensure that we do not allow society or church doctrines to dictate how we should think, or how we should conduct ourselves in our marriages.

This is what I was referring to when I pointed out that there is no where in the bible that says a man and a woman got married in a church.

Is it possible that the expectations, concepts and precepts of society’s attitude towards marriage and how a married couple should and shouldn’t behave have basically robbed many marriages of the joys of a free, loving and intimate friendship / relationship?

In other words, have our societal ‘norms’ and expectations – be they financial, behavioural, church or otherwise, eroded the authenticity and joys of relationships?

I often wonder which is more authentic.
To be married and living a life in which one is constantly keeping up with appearances for the sake of societal norms and expectations?

Or to be in a genuine relationship of love outside of marriage?

Yes I know. It’s a little radical.

But is it really???

I am not saying one is better than the other.

I’m also not saying that one is right and the other is wrong.

But I have come to the realisation that contrary to how I used to frown upon couples who are not married living together, I now see absolutely nothing wrong with it; so long as both hearts are committed to a lifelong relationship / partnership.

Remember when Samuel anointed David to be king of Israel?!

Let’s remind ourselves shall we!!

‘ When they arrived, Samuel saw Eliab and thought, ‘Surely the Lord’s anointed stands here before the Lord.’

But the Lord said to Samuel, ‘Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.’

1st Samuel 16 vs 6 – 8

So – which do you think God prefers?

To be in a marriage for appearances sake or to be with someone out of wedlock but be genuinely in love and wanting to build a future together????!!!

Does the fact that they didn’t go to church to get married mean that the Lord frowns on the relationship???

I am in fact very pro marriage.

My hope and prayer is that the two articles encourage us all to reflect on the importance of love – unconditional love – selflessness – authentic friendships and authentic relationships.

Be true to yourself.

Don’t just be another clone of your church or your society.

Take note – if you’re not true to yourself, eventually the real ‘you’ will come out, and it is very possible that your partner will not like what he or she sees.

Be true to each other – in terms of who you are, what you like and what you don’t like. Surely this is the only way in which you can really know whether somebody likes you for ‘you’.

God gave us all individual minds; individual characters; our own gifts; our own talents.

He purposely created you to be different from the next person.

Don’t be a clone of society.

Don’t be a clone of your church.

Be true to yourself and be true to God.

Remember, in as much as we are all in this together – to support, to encourage and to uplift one another, your relationship with God is between you and God.

For those of you who have never been married I say this.

Don’t be scared.

I firmly believe that marriage is a blessing.

But go into it with both your eyes open.

If you find your marriage in a rut, try as best you can to remember what you love (or loved) about your partner.

Then do your best to practice the love that is described in 1st Corinthians 13.

Finally, we are all on a learning experience; a long journey in which we need to do our best to continue to grow into the people that God created us to be.

On this journey we will make mistakes and we will at times fail.

But we must never give up on ourselves or think for one second that we cannot be better – for God and for each other.

Most importantly we must never ever give up on God’s ability to mould us into the wonderful and loving people He created us to be.

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HAVE WE GOT IT WRONG???

For some of you traditionalists this may sting a little. But please be rest assured that I am not purposefully trying to cause unrest or unease.

This is merely an observation; and just a few teeny weeny questions.

Just a few. Promise!!

I apologise in advance for any discomfort this article may cause you.

In the United Kingdom one in every three marriages between 1995 and 2010 ended in divorce.

In Australia nearly every third of marriages end in divorce.

The divorce rate in North America is 54.8%.

According to findthedata.org the divorce rate in Nigeria for 35 to 39 year olds in 1986 was 0.6%. In 2003 it was 1.6%.

Whilst this is a much lower percentage than those of our brothers and sisters in Europe and the U.S, we need to bear in mind that in Nigeria we tend to ‘separate’ and not divorce. It is quite possible that the ‘separation’ rate in Nigeria is just as high as the ‘divorce’ rates in Europe and the U.S.

Yes yes yes I know, I’m going through a divorce so it’s all too likely that I’m purposefully focusing on negative statistics.

I can assure you that I am not.

I very much believe in marriage, and to be perfectly honest I am looking forward to finding the right person to spend my middle and latter years with. Unfortunately the days of being able to use the word ‘young’ when referring to my dear self, officially waved an endearing but finite goodbye when I turned 40 earlier this year.

Statistics do not lie.

So what has gone wrong?

There are some who believe (as they do with most things) that marriages are under attack from the devil. This is quite possible.

Some are of the view that today’s generation (yep – you and I ) can’t even spell commitment let alone abide by it. This is also true, and quite possibly a legitimate reason for the increase in failed marriages.

Others are of the view that today’s generation simply refuses to put up with some of the unacceptable behaviours and actions that were prevalent in previous generations. Also possible.

Some blame the media.
I love blaming the media; such an easy target. Whenever in doubt blame the media!

However during the past few months I have sensed a more radical line of thought.

This rather controversial view is of the opinion that the institution of marriage has been hampered by the very fact that man has turned it into an ‘institution’. In other words man has indoctrinated and institutionalised something that was supposed to be a lot more simple, natural and straightforward.

Is there anywhere in the bible that portrays a man and a woman getting married in a church building? I’ve searched and searched and searched but I can’t find any reference to a couple going into a church building and being directed to say ‘I do’ as well as being required to sign marriage documents.

Correct me if I’m wrong but it seems to me that by our own volition we (mankind) have created an institution (or shall I say ‘system’) by which to maintain control, and then turned around and claimed that it is God’s will and God’s doing.

Is it God’s will for us to get married in church buildings? Who knows! But the bible certainly doesn’t give us any suggestions that it is.

Is it God’s will for us to sign documents? Again, who knows! But I’m yet to find anything in the bible that suggests or implies that this is what God wants.

I can sense the agitated sighs of “and so what Segs! What’s your point?”

Please tarry with me a little while longer.

Is it possible that as a result of an innate desire for systematic orderliness and accountability, mankind has more or less wrenched out the necessary ingredients for sustained relationships? Ie love, friendship and freedom.

In other words due to the subtle, subconscious, but inherent pressures that accompany the words ‘I do’, have we unknowingly created a ‘system’ that is basically destined to fail?

Again, please pardon me if I’m way off track here but it seems to me that in biblical times it was merely a simple act of two families meeting, and the payment of a dowry.

Have we over-complicated matters?

Further still, has the excitement of the church wedding become so fevered that we have become blind to the fact that marriage is so much more than the wedding day????

We Nigerians love the wedding day. In fact I often wonder whether the wedding day is about the couple getting married or the parents!!!

Has it merely become an opportunity for people to display their wealth?

The attitude seems to be one of ‘Sod the couple! They can sort themselves out later. This is our chance to show how well we’ve done. Let’s celebrate in style.’

No no no, I’m not having a go at parents. Anyone and everyone is entitled to celebrate their children’s wedding day in whatever manner they like.

I’m simply asking this question.

“Is it possible that man’s determined efforts to establish and build a thriving institution have in fact resulted in the unfortunate demise of authentic relationships?”

 

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THANK YOU!

A few weeks ago I informed you all that I had designed a seminar on divorce. I remember hesitating so many times before pressing ‘enter’.

My hesitation and reluctance was due to what I thought people might say. I was so concerned about people’s reactions and my personal reputation that I almost didn’t do it.
I was extremely concerned about the gossiping and the slandering that would ensue (and boy-o-boy do we enjoy gossiping and slandering in Lagos!!! Lol).

Well, as you now know, I did eventually press enter.

I want to thank everyone that called or sent me a message of encouragement during the following hours / days of my posting that article. Your words of encouragement were most invaluable. Thank you.

What has amazed me since posting that article is the amount of people that have contacted me to say what a good idea it is to have such a seminar. I am actually quite shocked by the amount of people that have got in touch to say that the seminar is much needed and long overdue- some of them are people I would have expected to frown upon such a seminar. I guess it just goes to show that God really does have a plan.

I have heard tales of people having to emigrate because of the stigma and near victimization inflicted on them because of divorce. I have heard tales of people turning to drink and drugs because of the depression caused by divorce.

I remember my return flight from Atlanta on 2nd October 2011, after my ex asked me for a divorce. On that flight I wanted to get absolutely hammered (for those who don’t understand that term it means to get blind drunk). But fortunately for me, just before ordering some wine, brandy, whisky, anything in fact (I was ready and looking forward to indulging in all various forms of alcohol!), I heard God tell me; ‘You are not to touch a drop of alcohol until January 2012.’
I realized there and then that, although it would be a challenge and sometimes excruciatingly painful, the best way to overcome the sorrow was to face the next few weeks and months 100% sober.

In other words I was just extremely fortunate to have received an instruction from a God that loves us all so much, and indeed always wants the very best for us. Thankfully He also gave me the grace and strength to obey.
Trust me – in my past I’ve gone down the road of alcohol and drugs, either for fun or to overcome sorrow and it is definitely not the answer. We’ll talk more about that at the seminar.

During the next few weeks, one thought kept running through my head over and over again.

‘Segs, you’re free now, you can have as much sex as you like. Go and rock! You deserve a little release. Go and get laid Segs!’

But somehow God made me realize that although the sex might be fun, and as far as I was concerned much needed, I would still wake up the next morning wishing I was waking up next to my wife.

The reason I am saying all this is because we need to recognize that we are all human. We all have failings. We all make mistakes. But that’s why we are friends. That’s why we are family; to help each other.

In other words we are not here to simply focus on being better than the next person.

We are also not here to judge the next person.

We’re not here to go through tough times alone.

We’re here to help each other through tough times.

We’re here to support one another through times of sorrow.

We’re here to strengthen one another in times of weakness.

This is the real reason for holding this seminar.

It is not just to tell you my story.

It is not just to tell you what went wrong – the mistakes I made.

It is to help those who are going through challenging times to find strength and hope; to know that they are not alone.

It is to show people who may be feeling lost and confused that this is NOT the end.

It is to enable people to find their real selves again.

And yes – it is to have a forum in which people can speak openly, without judgment or condemnation, about their personal experience and anguish of going through a divorce.

During the past few weeks I’ve written a few articles that may have suggested that I have something against church leaders in Nigeria. I want to make it very clear that I don’t.

In this light I want to thank my church pastor for helping me to move on. Thank you Mr. B.
And thanks for all your prayers Mr. D.

I want to touch briefly on something very important.

We spend so much time worrying about whether things might go wrong. We spend so much time hoping that things go smoothly in our lives. Well, the truth is that if everything in life was smooth and easy how on earth would we grow? If everything in your life was easy and smooth then how on earth would you know how to help those who are going through tough times?

I’m starting to believe more and more that every challenging situation we go through in life is for a reason – for the sake of our individual growth and development and more importantly so that we can help people who go through similar experiences.

There is something you and I are supposed to learn from every situation and every challenge.

Once you learn what it is, don’t just keep it to yourself. Use your lesson and experience to teach those in need.

A friend in need is a friend indeed.

Let us build a society in which we are all friends in need.

This may seem like a small step towards that. But remember – small steps lead to giant leaps.

If there’s anyone out there feeling dejected, rejected, unloved, alone and rather like a failure, I want to assure you that you are most definitely not a failure. I want to assure you that the only rejection that really matters is rejection from God; and that can never happen. He will never reject anyone that comes to Him.

Many years ago (I think I was between 5 and 7 years old), two of my older brothers and I were playing war in the front garden of our house. Can you imagine?!! Playing war in the front garden!!! You’d think we had the sense to at least play our war games in the back garden – away from the cars!!!

Anyway – the front garden it was.

As well as using sticks for guns we also used stones as grenades. Our war games were strategic and fierce.

In the midst of one of our intense afternoon battles I mindlessly took up position in front of our dad’s brand new black Mercedes Benz. Dad had taken the other car to work and was still at the office. He usually returned home at about 7.30pm.

So, there I was, positioned in front of this spanking brand new Merc, when my brother decided to lob a grenade at me. Till this day I ask him ‘ how on earth could you have lobbed a grenade at me when I was standing in front dad’s Merc? Come on!!!

But he did lob the grenade.

As that stone sailed through the air, everything seemed to be in slow motion. We all knew what the outcome would be upon the stone’s landing, but there was nothing we could do about it. As the stone landed on, and of-course smashed the windscreen of the Merc, a deathly silence descended upon us. Without uttering a word the three of us left the scene of the crime and went straight to bed. It was 2.30pm.

I doubt whether any of us slept for even a micro second. Indeed our anxiety and fear intensified more and more as evening approached.

Finally, we heard the beep of dad’s car. He had arrived from work.

Before going any further I should explain that the usual practice when dad arrived home was for us to run to him, screaming ‘daddy daddy daddy’ in excitement and joy. We would then proceed to take off, or more accurately, pull off his boots (remember those boots dads used to wear?!!).

But on this occasion there were no happy and excited screams of ‘daddy daddy daddy’.

After a very tense 20 minutes or so, we were eventually summoned downstairs. I’m sure walking the green mile is not too dissimilar to that walk we took down the stair case. But unbelievably, when we got downstairs, all he said to us was, ‘you poor children, you’ve suffered enough. Have you eaten?’

And that was it. Everything returned to normal. But before eating there was something we had to do first. Yep – pull off his boots. Lol.

Apparently when dad got home he was surprised by the fact that his children didn’t run out to greet him. He also missed it. He asked mum where we were and she replied,
‘Babafemi, o ori  moto e nita ni?’ Which, roughly translated means ‘Babafemi (my dad’s name), haven’t you seen the state of your car?’
Dad went to look at the car, and after seeing the state of it returned inside and said ‘those poor children. They must have been so scared and suffered so much during the past few hours. Please call them. I want to see my children.’

His love for his children far outweighed everything else.

As wonderful and loving as he is, my father on earth is certainly not perfect in love.

But our father in heaven IS perfect love.

So – multiply the love that a man had for his three rather mischievous children by infinity and you may just get an inkling of the love that our father in heaven has for you.

To our dear muslim brothers and sisters, I say
‘Barka Eid El Fitri’.

To everybody else I say ‘have great weekend.’

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